I continued to fight cindy’s alleations of instability and drug use and was diagnosed only with chronic pain and depression due to the breaking up of my marital relationship. I continued to work on cindy and my marriage until it came to my attention she was telling people I was threatening to kill her. I knew that cindy was either unstable or executing a plan to gain the upper hand in a divorce involving a former NFL Player. I was advised by multiple counselors that I needed to file for divorce from Cindy for my own protection–her lies had grown and been so well developed and or hestrated uninformed people mught believe them. It wa and is my belief cindy was reeiving advice from attorney’s and her family law mediator parents–whom both worked in the court house where the divorce took place–what a railroads job-wait to the end of a football career, pretend to be unhappy, have your generous accommodating husband move to a place your parents work in the family law division create a kind of fable about abuse etc… and make off with a lions share of the money and the children-smells kind of bad
yes cindy transfered 2 million dollars out of joint accounts to her private accounts-most of which is still unaccounted for-I spent over a year and hundreds of thousnads fighting to see my children-I was determined not to allow her and her lies to prevail–remember no allegations of abuse were made until the divorce-and these were not the kind of people to allow abuse to gooon-they are a family a PHDs-# lawyers-2 and cindy had access to all the money we had–she had a business a personal trainer, nannies for the kids, a television show-and beleive me if people saw us together she would not have been seen as ythe abused one.
CINDY LEFT FLORIDA FIRST. I was seeing the children 3-5 times per week at there scchool and at my home in floeida-cindy chose to use ashley0our oldest daughter as leverage to move all the children to New york. Fot two yeards i flew back and fgorth tonew york-stayed in hotels and saw my childtren. I flew the children across counrty 6 ntimes to spend summers holidays and vacations with my family as the children had had little time with my family. I exhausted my financial and emotional resources as during visitations the same unfounded allegations of drugs and alcohol were made. I continued testing to protect myself.
finall y in june of 2004 iwa sinformed CINDY WITHOUT CONSULTING OR INFORMING ME IN ANYWAY WAS MOVEING THE CHILDREN TO RURAL SOUTHWESTERN PENNSYLVANIA-even though shepurchsed th house in october of 2003 three and had made multiple tripsa preparing to moveI WAS SHUT OUT ANBD NOT CONSULTED. Since that ime I have no information about my children and there well being and I had to bring legal action just to get medical bills.
I traveled to drop my children off in Pennsylvania in the summer of 2004–again I face distortions about me and my interaction with my children-for example-Cindy had taken my luggage from the airport without muyy permission and I HAD TO PHONE THE POLICE-insteads he alleged she had to call the police-she hung up on multiple times as i tried to tell her of our travel plans from seattle to Pittsburgh–she nthe n accused me of not mvcommunicating and trying not return the children even though i flew three thousnadx miles in her direction to bring them to her
In september of 2004 $277,000 was withdrawn from our daughter Ashleys Uniform transfwer to minors acr acocounbt. the account governed by the laws of New york required the beneficiary-ashley -be 21 years of age to receive her mopney and that the custodian(whom was still cindy as she refused to transfer the funds in accordance with a court order)must trransfer to asheley. Ashley was only 18 and she and hwer morgwe maintained ashley withdrew the money after ashleys 18th birthday–in frustration I suspendend support payments–I was relying on that college money to have a chance to talk to Ashley-she had been used by cINDY AS A TOOL IN THE DIVORCE-CINDY REFUSED TO MAKE HER AVAILABLE TO COUNSELORS–IT WAS HORRIBLE WHAT SHE WAS PUT THROUGH–TRAGICALLY i HAVE BEEN TO COURT THREE TIMES TRYING TO COMMUNICATE WITH aSHLEY AND GET TO THE TRUTH-THEY HAVE BEEN UNSUCCESSFULL-SO i HAVE NOT OPPOSED THE TAKING OF HALF MY DIABILITY PAYMETNS AS SUPPORT AND i WILL PAY THE ARREARAGE OF SUPPORT OUT OF MY PENSION. It is important for me to tell chiefs fans I have been involved in a dispute concerning my ability to communicate with all my children and there futures and the coolege money I saved for them while playing-
Please I am not lost-I am not what my ex would characterize me to be-I am the same generous caring person I have alwaysz been–I have struggled to find away to deal with chronic physical pain and the horrible emotional pain of the betrayal I went through at the end of my football career.
Please chiefs fans beleive me when I say this stuff is just the tip of the iceberg nad I only say it publicly because I berleive my children do not deserve to be told there father abandoned them. I have boxes of documents to show them how hard I fought and how misguided cindy’s approach has been.

thanks seeing through the distortions and manipulations-I was taught to keep to ones self about matters like this-what good can come from me telling about Cindy’s actions–I have kept to myself to protect the children–children will only feel as good about themselves as they feel about each parent.

thank you,

joe phillips